ㄥ❀∨モ criticism ♥

A couple of things on my mind

that I’d like to share today that have to do with reading, writing, creativity and comments. I am thankful for the positive comments and encouragement I get from people who read my blog. When I started off blogging, the idea was to share. I have written since I can remember. In fact, I remember a time in my life where I would fill my days writing.

Everyone is a Critic

I have control over three things in m life: The thoughts I think, the images I visualize and the the actions I take.  ¸¸.·☆

When I made the decision to share my words with the world it wasn’t based on a self satisfying idea to help one person out there. It was more the idea that I wanted to learn how to blog. I thought of instead of writing in my journal, I’d do it online.

It’s actually a bit of a risk, if you ask me, putting yourself out on the line to be judged by your peers.

I'm okay with rejection.
►ㄥife is nσt abσut waiting fσr the storms to pass. it’s abσut ℓearning hσw tσ dance in the rain.►

I like the idea of learning by doing. It’s one thing to think about doing something and a whole other ball game to put yourself out there and actually do something. —What inspired this post was seeing the amazing things that are going on in your lives. I feel each one of you reading this is successful in your own way.

 

I’ve seen my friends overcome numerous obstacles to achieve their goals. I’ll give you some examples. One friend overcame the death of her parents at a young age to go and have a beautiful big family of her own.

I can make a living doing what I love and enjoy.
I can make a living doing what I love and enjoy.

She figured it out. Others have dreamt of becoming writers, business people, dads, teachers, artists, musicians, you name it. They haven’t given up and they are doing it — pursuing their dreams. Doing it. Loving it.

I have a friend who is scared of making a change in her life. Her entire family is relocating to a new city with completely new people, streets, smells, schools, every little thing in her life will be new.

But she did it. She said yes to life with the insecurity that comes from the future and not knowing what it would hold. Good for her.

Life is a journey. ♥ Set yourself up to play a winning game.

Another fantastic woman is traveling the world on her own. Such courage. Other friends are dealing with heartbreak, love, life, raising families and work. They are figuring it out. The more people who read my blog, of course, there always seems to be someone who doesn’t like it.

That leaves the question to me of how to deal with it. I either forgive, forget, overlook, pretend they aren’t there or accept it.

Between saying and doing is an ocean of difference.

While I was on vacation for a week and didn’t have internet access I found myself missing my online community. I have made friends with unbelievable people I wouldn’t have otherwise met. We share videos, stories, pictures of our lives, you name it. For me being so far from my family I find it a great way of knowing what they are up to. I have also met people from all over the world. I love that. Our world truly is getting smaller.

So on a spiritual path to enlightenment, I believe we are all interconnected. All of our actions effect each other. I’m working through these questions with the help of my friends and I am so thankful for them. How do you deal with the critics? Is it better just to not share? You are welcome to leave your comments. Thank you for visiting. As always I hope this post finds you lucky and in love.

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32 Comments

  1. G-Morning Julie, I think you have a wonderful blog and I agree that it has opened up many ideas and possibilities that certain people would not have otherwise come to recognize in themselves.

    I feel I have been enriched by your heartwarming thoughts and I do feel a spiritual connection with YOU and each fabulous woman who has connected herself to you as well. I wish all women joy and hope that at this late date in time that we will eventually tear down any and all barriers that prevent us from sharing our glorious journey on our Mother Earth. Near or far, we are coming together!!

    With Love from your California/Florida sister,
    Debra~”-)

    1. Thank you so much Debra.

      I completely agree that we are all connected in one way or another. It is the sharing part that helps us and also learning as well.

      Thanks for being such an excellent contributor. I appreciate the support.

      Julie

  2. As someone who loves to read, and has been an avid book reader all my life, I always have a lot of respect for authors. Even if I don’t like the book, I still afford tremendous respect for them putting it out there.

    Writing is sort of like faith or religion. It’s a truly personal thing because it’s expressing something you have inside of you and putting it out there for everyone to see. It takes courage to invite someone into the workings of your mind, and that alone deserves respect, even when you can’t appreciate what the written word is.

    Blogging has offered an outlet for more people to put their words on a page aside from being a published author.

    Something I learned quickly when I decided to start a blog was this; not everyone is going to like what I have to say or how I say it. I always try to be as respectful as I possibly can, but the bottom line is my opinions are my own and in choosing to share them publically, I have to take the good with the bad. Luckily there is almost always more good than bad.

    Julie, you know the saying, “You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” It’s the truth.

    Just keep doing what you are doing and you can’t ask more than that. Seems to me you have a very solid group of followers that appreciate what you have to say. Those are the people that make it worthwhile.

    As a very good friend of mine would say, in regards to the ones who don’t appreciate it, “Screw them.” 🙂

    1. Pam,

      You are always good for a story and a laugh ~ I truly appreciate that.

      I think having a certain philosophy towards problems helps us to overcome them. Your points are spot on. It’s so true that after reading many authors we identify with them on different levels. In blogging we also make great friendships.

      If you haven’t yet visited Pam’s blog, make sure you do so by clicking on her name.

      Julie

  3. If they do not like your blog then why an earth do they read it Julie?

    Ignore them and they will maybe go away?

    Have a good weekend my virtual friend.

    1. I so agree with you. If they don’t like your blog, then what are they doing reading it? I think you are right about ignoring them.

      If you give the person who is disturbing attention they are getting exactly what they want.

      Still I think acceptance is more the key. I’ll be working on that. Also I believe there is a lesson to be learned from them, it just takes a little extra work to find it.

      Julie

  4. I can’t imagine anyone not liking your class. Please keep blogging. It’s true what you say, that we take a risk by putting our life out there. Sometimes I wonder how vulnerable I want to be….at other times I feel embarrassed by my little issues an feel they are too insignificant to share. I am glad there are more positive people out there than negative.

    1. Ha ha ha ha.

      I could laugh to the bank with that one. Believe me, BJ, if you want a list of names, I’ll have it over on your desk by sundown.

      Thank you though for your support and comments. They are truly appreciated.

      Julie

  5. Oh DD

    At Website in a Weekend, Dave’s blog, you have so much good information on blogging. I wish I knew what a post slug was, but I’ll be happy to take the link. Thank you.

    Julie

  6. I love the advice above “if they don’t like your blog, then why on earth are they reading it!” I’m going to keep that as my new motto for my blog, my real estate, my everything. True words of wisdom!
    You are a lovely writer Julie. So inspiring, such a true success and inspiration. Keep doing what you are doing!

  7. Julie, Every so often I get some criticism. (too simple, docs shouldn’t play music, etc) I figure as long as God forgives me for my flaws, if I do my best and my wife and kids love me I can just shrug it off. I do try to see if the critics concerns are valid and learn from it, but I never let it shake my core.

    Hey if you get a chance come over to my blog and check out the link to my recent TV clip. After all, mandolins got their start in Italy!

    Dr. B

  8. Hi Julie…so sorry….I am locked out of my own Facebook (decided to just give up on it and use twitter instead), but just checked my tinyisland mail and saw that you wrote me. Oops…terribly sorry I took so long to reply. The hits are probably my tons of relatives.

    Strangely or maybe not so strangely I noticed controversial local topics draw the most hits……I see the stats graph jump way up and then way down again the next day. People in Singapore love controversy!

    I am very thin skinned myself and feel like crying when i get criticism….. and complements are lovely…..boost my self confidence. thanks Julie for all the sweet comments 🙂

  9. I just started reading your blog and I think it’s wonderful.
    Dont let anyone stop you from what you’re so good at 🙂

  10. By and large I believe that if you hav’nt got somethig nice to say it’s better to shut up. I love your blog and I’m very pleased I stumbled upon it. I can’t understand people who trawl the net to make negative comments. Actually I do understand them but I wish I did’nt

  11. It’s funny you write this because I got a critical email from someone yesterday. This person said that I seem to only have my blog and my faith and nothing else… And that I seem so impressionable and pathetic that he feels sorry for me. Reading that stung a little at first, but I love my life and I am living it the way I want to. If someone attacks me, I can only assume that they’re unhappy right now. Maybe that man has a broken heart or maybe something has stopped him from having hope. All I can do is wish him love and happiness, and keep doing what I love. 🙂

  12. I’m sorry to read that JR, I don’t like that at all. I don’t know why people just feel that because they have a computer in front of them they can write mean comments to people they probably don’t even know. That’s not good upbringing at all. He probably has a crush on you and doesn’t know how to express himself. ha ha! It does sound as if he’s jealous of your love for God. That’s your real luck as you can have been givin a unique opportunity to shine how grea His love is.

    Thanks for your lovely posts one after the other.
    Julie

  13. Well, I know I have only commented like once, several months ago, but I do really like your blog. It’s got variety, is nicely written, and has a nice look. Plus it’s just nice to find a blogger in Emilia Romagna!
    I haven’t had critics of my blog, but I have had people be critical of my dancing (tango being my passion), and being the thin-skinned girl I am I just can’t stand it! I am still learning to shrug my shoulders and remember the best advice a dance teacher gave me as I was stepping into the world of teaching tango: “There will always be someone who doesn’t like your dancing. This is true for all dancers. Just do what you do, your way.”

  14. > Between saying and doing is an ocean of difference.
    So true.

    I think the power of life comes from creating experiences.

    I find the best way to deal with a critic is to get curious, not defensive, and turn the critic into a coach … ask them how they might do it better? Suddenly you are teaming up with them on the path of growth instead of trying to defend a hill that might not be worth defending.

    My greatest lessons came from my greatest critics.

  15. Ah… what a coincidence. Isn’t it slightly magical how they happen just when you need them to? I started writing a blog two years. I was terrified of putting myself out there publicly. I wrote for about a month when I decided that it was not worth it. About a week ago, I decide to hell with it and give it another try. So far, I haven’t had any critics to deal with -mostly because the only people who read my blog are my facebook friends, and I think they know better (they are my realy friends after all). So, this post was a bit serendipitous (sp?) for me. Thankyou. I don’t know yet how I’ll deal with the critics, but I’ll keep reading to learn about how you deal with yours. =)

  16. I find that those folks don’t understand what I do and simply go away if ignored or otherwise abandoned. As a new comer to WP I pray there isn’t a lot of this, I just left Myspace, finally, it was decimated by acerbic critics and hate a few years ago. I wouldn’t want to see that happen here… Keep your chin up, and here’s to happy blogging.

    smiles
    e

  17. I’ve just read this again, and enjoyed it and remembered how true it is. It makes me think how many great blog posts get lost in the archives

    1. You should dig up some of your historic good posts and repost them. I bet you have some nice articles back there.

      Julie

      1. You always make me smile. I think there is some way of putting up one of those nice orangy smily thjings on here, but I’m not sure where they are 🙂

  18. Each of us needs a tidbit of inspiration nearly every single day. You are one of the wonderful people who share with the world and help lift spirits you have yet to meet. Thank you for making a difference for so many.

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