One day, I took two of my students to the center of town shopping. They would hand me t~shirts to try on. I would hold up a shirt and get the teenage big eyed face lights up yes, or the opposite eye rolled absolute no.
One day, I brought my two boys with me on a theater trip to the town center together with my class. The Italian professor gave me huge compliments. My boys deserved them. They behaved so well, just smiled, had fun and were part of the group. I particularly remember watching the theater performance from the box in the balcony. I had gone up there with my two boys to rest because there was a red velvet couch.
Slowly but surely my students spotted me, and came to keep me company. In the end there were nine of us in the box and my boys on their laps. My boys sat forward with their arms crossed, chin on their arms watching the entire theater performance. It was magical. ´¯`»¸¸.·☆
We have five more days together before we part ways. It this what it means to be a mom, wife and teacher?
If you look really closely you can see me walking in the background.
My husband is impressed by the fact that I worked with Tom Cruise in a film in 1980 called Losin’ It with Shelly Wintors before Tom made Taps when he was still unknown.
Not only did my husband ask me to buy the dvd, he took out all of the connector cables from the garage so we could watch me up close on our wide screen TV.
When Tom and I met on set, he told me that a friend had got sick so they called him in as a last minute actor, that it was his lucky break.
He told me he had recently moved to New York to get into acting. The film we made was his first film although it was probably his worst film ever. It was a really bad movie.
On our paycheck stubs the production company was called Tijuana Summer. Ha!
I think I was 16 and he was 18.
I was called through an agency for a film that was being shot in the valley and my mom said I could miss school and work. I met Tom on set because we were a bunch of kids hanging out from 6a to 6p. We later became friends while he was in Los Angeles for seven days and hung out.
He told me he had quit high school to act and his name wasn’t Tom. He told me I could call him by his real name, Mapathor or his stage name, however I wanted.
He is really nice and down to earth, we hung out in his trailer too. Wikipedia says his real name is Thomas, but he introduced himself as another name, trying to remember.
Even my two kids were pointing: Look there’s mom.
My girlfriends in high school can attest to this, although I continue to have a hard time believing the story myself!
I’m going to get the video up of it so you can see it and laugh with me and if you’d like. I will take a picture of my diary I wrote on the day we met by request.
Tom and I worked five days together.
Usually, when I tell my Tom Cruise story people are surprised.Now unfortunately, I think the kids in school like other actors too although I’m convinced Tom Cruise has a fan or two out there.
There’s no doubt in my small mind however he is incredibly talented. If you caught him in Steal Magnolia’s I think you just might agree.
I have to admit I’m getting excited about this series of #MAFSS — an acronym for My Amazing Friends’ Success Stories.
I love to learn from my friends and I can’t think of a better way then to pick their brains. The guests of honor are starting to arrive and I’m happy to say Welcome!
Our second guest on this series is an accomplished IT saleman, husband and father.
He’s not only got a gorgeous wife, he’s got great kids who are involved in academics, athletics and music at secondary school.
His accolades include working for International Business Machines (IBM), attending the University of Southern California (USC) and having lived on both US coasts.
He is also a two time Ironman who has taught me about putting mind over matter.
Without further ado, ladies and germs, I mean gents, Dave Henn.
Can you tell me a little bit about yourself? I am 50 years old, was born in New York, and at the age of 5, moved to California. I have been married for over 21 years to my best friend. We have two children, Olivia and Nick, who I adore and admire.
How do you define success? Success, to me, is the completion of goals set. Period. It does not matter if it was to ride a bike, or swim a long distance, raise money or complete a course. It is the act of finishing that to me, is successful and significant.
I remember the day I felt that I had finally made it in my life. It was the day I had my 25 year reunion with my study abroad program. I looked around and thought, wow, that’s a pretty darn successful group, then I realized I was part of it. How about you? What was your I made it moment? Great question. I think the day my wife and I attended our first sales trip together in Cancun was a realization that I had become significant. It was the first time that we could actually plan for retire and college funds where before we struggled month to month. That was in 1993.
Have you ever come across an obstacle in your path to where you are today? Can you describe it to me and tell us how you got over it? I am in sales on 100% commission. Obstacles are everywhere ~ the economy, difficult people, timing, etc.
The one thing that I always fall back on was my completion of the Hawaiian Ironman, and the struggles I went though to complete it. I now look at obstacles as opportunities to again develop solutions I can then look back on when I encounter another one.
Since completing my second Ironman, I have found that nothing is impossible to overcome regardless of what it looks like at the time ~ neither money, or health, or business ~ but you must believe. You must believe in yourself enough.
As I always tell my kids, You either think you can or you think you cant. Either way, you’re right.
In terms of education, did you find a university degree was necessary in obtaining your dreams or goals? What was? I went to USC thinking I wanted to become a patent attorney. I thought, that was going to be the way to achieve security and stability in my life. I was working as a sales intern for IBM to help pay my way and they offered me a job in my senior year and I accepted it.
However, now that I have been in Information Technology for 30 years, I realized that the education helped me establish a way to organize myself, and to learn ways to obtain knowledge, but I think the life lessons along this road have been more valuable than any I learned in school.
What are you currently working on? I am currently working on developing new IT solutions with my customers to keep pace with the changing needs of their customers. It is a rewarding job that always gives me an opportunity to see what really is happening behind the scenes in some of the largest companies in the world.
At almost age 60, he took up endurance sports. How driven is he? He has participated in over 158 marathons and ultramarathons, over 32 Ironman Triathlons, and 33 half-Ironman triathlons, rode his bike TWICE from coast to coast (CA-NY), swam from Newport Beach to Catalina and BACK.
The list goes on and on.
What I find so admirable is his humbleness. There are few in the world that have done so much who stay out of the limelight and inspire others. I met this man in 2000 and he touched my life and the life of my family in such a special way, that he will never be forgotten.
Would you like to give me a word of advice on obtaining goals?
Not one word, but a few. Write it down. Your subconscious
is directly impacted by your conscious actions. Without writing it down, it is not real. Once you do, strap in and focus. You will achieve it.
Big Bang or Evolution? Believer in God the Almighty. Creator of heaven and earth. Enough said.
George Clooney or Brad Pitt? I think Brad, but only because his wife is so hot.
Angeline Jolie or Jennifer Aniston? Kind of answered that above ~ Angelina.
Left handed or right? Right.
Existentialist or Fatalist? I believe there is a purpose in life and a heaven after.
Afterlife or end of life? Afterlife of course.
Champagne, beer, both or other? Small bubbled Champagne.
Thank you so much for dropping by. If you are interested in participating in out MAFSS series drop us an email at email@example.com and write MAFSS in subject line.
I just now am relaxing down to write about my latest vacation days at the beach with my family, old and new friends. We spent twelve total days at the coast.
Also, we had four visitors come by to keep me and da boyz company that included two great friends and my husband and mother in law when they weren’t working.
How do you feel about camping? Do you like to have your vacation in a five star hotel, at the lake waterskiing, or do you prefer camping? I think camping for kids is a great experience. As adults, I think we get used to our comforts.
Since I walked into my home only three hours ago, I have what I call fresh eyes on the entire vacation. Even though we had a fantastic time, this is one of those vacations when you kiss the floor when you walk into your house.
I joked a couple of weeks ago because I said I won’t be too sad about not going to California this summer because I’m consoling myself going to the Italian Riviera. I got a couple of laughs out of that. Now I’m going to give you the entire story, the good, the bad, the heat.
I finished two books. Yay! I love to read. I finished The Power of Now by Eckhart Toole and The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. Both were excellent. I came home to some great news.
For one my friend has dedicated an article to me and that is so sweet. Another friend of mine, Liz, bless her heart, sent me the film Julie & Julia because she knows I don’t get to see films here for months after they come out. Another sweet heart sent me a video.
Next time, when I go on vacation, hopefully I won’t have to be without internet for five days. I didn’t bring my camera, because quite frankly I had enough on my mind caring for two rather small kids.
Okay. The trip.
We went to the beach is found straight east of here. You can drive it in about an hour. We stayed at my mother in law’s camp ground that is private. BUT there is NO running water in the camper, or better yet, no drainage. Well, there is running water, but I didn’t use it because I didn’t want to empty the containers by hauling waste. Yikes!
The GREAT parts.
We were walking distance to the beach that took no more than five minutes. We reserved umbrella set up with two chaise lounges available for the summer season.
Who is coming to keep me company?
The nonna is working so she has left the camp site to our complete disposition. That is so overwhelmingly nice of her.
Here, the kids have entertainment in the evenings. The way it works is that you can leave your kids with counselors at the camp ground park 10a to noon and four to six. I never did though, except yesterday when my kids did some coloring.
In the evening around 9p there is music and dancing. The kids love this because they are free to roam around the camp ground. Literally, I think there were about fifty kids running around playing hide and seek. They found some cats. They exchanged t shirts. They made friends. They played endlessly.
The WORST part.
There was no running water. Or, as I said, I didn’t use the running water in the camper. That meant to brush our teeth we had to walk about three minutes down the gravel path to a common bathroom. Sure, it was super clean and organized but I just hated having people look at me while I brushed my teeth. I ended up brushing in the camper. Ugh.
It wasn’t so easy to get my kids to brush either.
The Adriatic sea water was clean, salty ~ the air good for you. The kids got a little inflatable boat and spent hours upon hours playing in the light waves while I read.
There was too much sun and I don’t like being tan. I seriously don’t like being out in the sun too long. I stayed in the shade as much as possible worrying about my kids getting too much sun.
Watching my boys being brothers. I cannot stress how happy that makes my mother’s heart. My little guys were playing billiards together, helping each other. Every time I look, they are together. We all spent HOURS on bikes. That was super cool because there was a shady bike path.
A nice vacation on the coast? Well, why not. I liked it. I just have certain things I cannot live without, like internet, like my washer dryer, like running water, like a cool place to hang my hat.
Time share of course. We still have two or three more weeks of vacation coming up and love my honey, we get four and five star treatment from here on in. Yay. We plan on going to the mountains to cool off and to the country that is just striking.